A friend talked to me about my coaching and we realised that my neuro-diversity provides me with the ability to hyperfocus in coaching sessions. This means I can enter into an intensity of listening and congruity that offers powerful attention to what is being expressed by the client in words, actions, expressions, tone and movement. Being ‘heard’ with this depth stimulates profound thinking and clarity. It means I am alert to the rich language and metaphorical world expressed by the client. I am able to enter into the clients metaphors, and use them to address the challenges. We can address the issues entirely from the clients own world, the client shows the way with their own language and images, and I have intense curiosity about them, so together we can interpret them and end in a place of understanding and clarity.
My friend asked me if this was hard work. I realised that it wasn’t, it’s kind of the opposite, it’s a kind of fugue state, a mindful place, almost meditative. My brain is operating on a different level that has very little to do with me, and everything to do with the client. So it is actually rewarding and recuperative. The coaching process is transformative for the client and the coach. Both enter a rich world together and come out the other side calm and clear. Who needs the yoga retreat!
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